Submitted by megan on Sat, 07/25/2009 - 22:42
Well, Internet, I've been keeping a secret from you.
Okay, not so much a secret. Just private. It's going around, it seems.
Normally, I'd be spilling all over myself to tap tap tap you out all the news concerning this information. With selected details and careful gushing.
I have been dating.
It's true. There is a person I have been meeting on a regular basis. We go out, we get tipsy, we remove our pants. Not always necessarily in that order, and occasionally one of those elements is absent.
In and of itself, this is not particularly remarkable. I've dated a fair few people over the past few years. Most of them have morphed from lovers to good friends. Occasionally they've hip-scotched over that line, one way or 'tother.
Thing is, I blogged about them all, and while I don't think blogging had anything to do with anything at the bottom line, I am reminded of a saying I stole from Jennifer. Do what you've always done, get what you've always gotten.
While I am not going to complain about the getting of good friends, the word that I have for the feeling that I'm feeling about my dates with D.Jack is this one: protective.
Blogging dating puts on some pressure. It forces me to say something, to make decisions about what I'm feeling, to make borders of definitions. And make them public.
So I am doing what I have not always done. I am giving this one room to breathe.
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6 comments postedI agree -- blogging about dating puts pressure that doesn't need to be there. The same goes for some other topics too. Sometimes blogging just adds a super-public aspect that is tricky. Sometimes it's best to just talk about other things.
Depends on how things are going... and if they know about the blog. If there's pressure on the relationship the blog can be a good place to work out the details of solving the problems. Or at least a place to acknowledge the problems exist. It can also be a great place to brag about the sex.
LC: True nuff. Not like there isn't lots of other stuff going on.
Gabriel: There's no way I could date someone and not tell them about my blog. Partially because I do it under my own full name, so all they'd have to do is google me to find whatever I'd been "secretly" writing about them. I'm also uncomfortable with the notion of blogging potentially private stuff about someone without either their express permission or a veto vote.
And I'm not sure I'd be good with hashing out relationship problems on blog. The internet is too permanent, oddly enough. You write something down that you maybe kind of think and then it's like you're sure. I dunno.
Interesting to think about though.
I am a firm believer in changing patterns every once in a while for getting new and possibly better results... just like Jennifer said. So for what it's worth, you have my support on this one.
Speaking of support... thank you for your advice and encouragement at BOLO!
I keep meaning to ask you... Did you get a chance to read the mouse and moose books?
I think I have much to learn from you still, beautiful lady.
Woodsy - You were wonderful at BOLO! You didn't need my encouragement at all. I have had a chance to get to the mouse and moose books, and enjoyed them thoroughly. I should return them to you one of these fair days. Or even one of these rainy days.
Mae - Well, I dunno about that, but I'd be happy to try and teach you.
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