Megan's Rules for Dating Boys in Bands


7 comments posted

oh megan. why didn't we hang out more?

about girls in bands, I've known plenty. I haven't dated any of them, but they've been my best friends. None of them are like the band boy you've described. They will on occassion get wrapped up in their music/gear/band friends, but they're considerate and never expect me to wait/haul/work their show.

As for the band boys, I'm sure I'm still going to date them. I think I'd have to go back to 1997 for the last boy I dated who wasn't a musician. I'm a groupie at heart. Next time I do, though, I'll be keeping this list of dos and don'ts in the back of my mind.

ps - Greg is so wise!

Posted by susie (not verified) on Wed, 01/31/2007 - 01:14

An excellent template you have here, Megan.

Posted by Aggie (not verified) on Wed, 01/31/2007 - 17:53

You should get Minxer from Babycakes to help you out with the Rules. She's been dating S. for five years, I think, which in non-musician years is like dying and being reincarnated with the same mate three times in a row.

Posted by madkevin (not verified) on Wed, 01/31/2007 - 23:48

What? 5 happy years? That Minxer is going to have to start an ashram and be our guru. She must make us wise in the ways of her knowing.

Aggie! Why thank you, I do hope you can find it useful. And what a pleasure to have you comment.

Last but not least, our sweet 'bama Sue. I do not know why we did not hang out more when you lived here. Probaby because I had not developed my rules for dating boys in bands yet.

What we need is some kind of meter to know when a boy/girl in a band has turned into a bandperson.

I have it on good authority that there are indeed band girls out there. Maybe the ratio is the same, and there are just fewer girls in bands to start with.

Posted by megan on Thu, 02/01/2007 - 00:37

hmm, yes, you may be right about the overall fewer girl musicians = fewer bandgirls. Also, I try not to hang out with assholes, so naturally my musician friends wouldn't be jerks. But if I'm getting some nice action, my jerk tolerance is considerably higher.

I don't know about a meter, but I'm learning to look to my friends for some sound judgement. Some friends will tell me their (sometimes harsh) opinions outright, while others convey their concern through silence (if they can't say something nice...). But how my tried and true friends react to a person I'm dating is something I'm paying more and more attention to the older I get.

ps - I'm having posting issues, so forgive me if I've submitted this over and over and over..

Posted by susan (not verified) on Thu, 02/01/2007 - 01:17

Unfortunately, I've broken 5 of your 8 rules. That makes me 37.5% enlightened. It doesn't sound like very much, but I don't think I'm band boy whipped. I don't enjoy hauling gear or standing around while he talks about sampler widgets, but he indulges me when I want/need to do Minxer stuff. We balance out, I think.

Posted by minxer (not verified) on Thu, 02/01/2007 - 21:36

Yes! Friends are the meter! I have also learned to be cautious where my friends are cautious.

Minxer, obviously you have got a good system going on. Maybe balance is the key?

Posted by megan on Thu, 02/01/2007 - 23:46