Submitted by megan on Tue, 04/07/2009 - 22:08
Here's a trick I use on a regular basis:
If I can't decide between two options, I flip a coin. Not so that the coin can tell me what to do, but so that I can judge my reaction to what the coin is telling me to do. If I'm disappointed it's tails, I know that heads is the right decision.
Even as the early results were coming in, before I saw any comments, the answers were in favour of not telling. I found myself wishing it had been heads.
I really don't think they would have fired me. But I go to a fair number of conferences as a representative of my work, to net-work, and I wasn't sure if they'd be happy about having an emissary with starfish arms on her neck.
What I should have mentioned in the first post is that everyone I work with is great. They're incredibly cool. In the end, that's what decided it. I wanted to stop worrying needlessly over something that was likely not true.
In fact, this is how the conversation went:
Me: So, that appointment I have tomorrow afternoon?
M: It's a tattoo appointment.
B: raises her eyebrows
M: Oh, don't worry, I'll make up the time.
B: waves hand in the air dismissively And...?
M: Well, it's going to be visible. On my shoulder and neck. Hard-to-hide kind of visible.
M: Well, I go to conferences and stuff, representing us.
B: And...? It's not a like a big [something my work is categorically against], is it?
M: Oh! Oh no. It's a starfish.
Since we're not categorically against starfish, she was fine with it. We went on to talk about how cool starfish are and how she saw some really beautiful ones on Salt Spring when the tide was low. Of an indescribable red.
I am lucky lucky lucky.