Taking Stock


13 comments posted

On Friday, I was thinking that your writings give us permission to feel and to react to so much that many of us have been shamed into not feeling or talking about.
...thank you for sharing.

Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 00:25

I think you are amazing for being able to articulate these feelings of loss. Mine just come out in messy love songs, and they sound far 'nicer' than they feel.

You tell it like it is, and you tell it well.

Posted by Andrea SK (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 09:18

if no one shares the raw, scared and shitty mess than it will only ever be *clean*. sharing is honest and takes bravery. it's what we all wish we could do and need to do in the crappy times and you're doing it. keep sharing. keep breathing. you're a strong woman.

Posted by Sarah L. (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 10:00

I find your honesty and clarity really inspiring. It makes it okay for the rest of us to feel things. Thanks for that.

Posted by Ariel (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 11:22

Yes, I'm with PL on this. But I know that sharing this takes courage. And great generosity.

Posted by Aggie (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 11:26

you're awesome! you don't have to explain or justify anything. I'm extremely thankful for your writing, and any douche who may ever give you crap about it can suck it.

Posted by suge (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 12:05

I think more of you for it Megan. And I've been impressed by the calibre of your writing throughout it too. You're always a top-notch writer, but raw emotion has kicked it up yet another notch.

Posted by zoom (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 12:19

P.S. I love your new profile photo.

Posted by zoom (not verified) on Thu, 01/17/2008 - 12:26

I feel weird posting, 'cause I am generally ghost reader here. But I have to say that there is no way you will feel the same way in a year. Time changes everything, too bad there is no guarantee *how*. Shannon

Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 01/18/2008 - 01:32

i agree with everyone. takes guts to share feelings and it is not easy to do it. there are many people going thru break-ups at any given moment. it's posts like these, people like you, that remind us we are not alone. thank you.

Posted by Amanda (not verified) on Fri, 01/18/2008 - 07:35

I think your comment about not having good examples of feelings in society is true, but I think in this case it is also the fact that suffering of any kind is seen as undesirable, so that when we do suffer we feel like failures. Maybe suffering is an inherited trait, like introversion, but the non-sufferers, like the extroverts, simply have the monopoly on society. You've definitely raised good questions, even in your sadness: What place does unhappiness have in overall happiness? Why can't we be sad in regular society and not seem like freaks? I think your sadness is beautiful. I don't think you need to feel sorry for it.

Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 01/18/2008 - 19:01

It's so admirable that you can let out feelings like that. I don't think I'd be able to. Even with people who are close to me, I tend to enclose whatever I'm feeling within myself, and I can't really be as open and honest as you are! Seriously, judging from the amount of comments you've gotten, it seems everyone agrees that it's awesome you're doing what you're doing.
It's funny. I'm working on a project in studio about architecture's possibility to push the ideas of proximity and closeness on people. Kind of letting go of the cultural conditioning of being so private, and studying the ideas you just explained about honesty and emotions. Well, and just pushing the boundaries of the definition of personal space. It's psychological, sociological..but I'm not entirely sure it can manifest itself to be architectural yet! We'll see how that goes!

Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 01/19/2008 - 12:21

Thanks, everyone, for all the kind words. They've been really really nice to get and read. I'm lucky.

Rance: That sounds like a super-wicked project. Let me know how it goes!

Posted by megan on Sat, 01/19/2008 - 15:25