How I Know the World Is Fucked Up, Part 2

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Weight issues suck. I've got

Weight issues suck. I've got three little sisters, all of whom are beautiful and insanely intelligent women, and all of them have body image... difficulties. Back in early high school two of them became convinced they were too heavy, and inevitably grew into the image they had of themselves. My youngest basically starved herself through high school because she was so frightened of ending up round like her mom.

I'm starting to think there must be some genetic component to eating disorders, surely it can't be entirely cultural. Obviously there's genetics involved with things like body dysmorphic disorder, but just the general way people (girls) attack each other over weight seems like it would be driven by more than just cultural factors. Like the way little boys will beat the shit out of each other with sticks, then isolate and alienate based on size and strength and ability to get along inside the group.

Weird thing is, I was targeted by three girls in my early high school years. They had me convinced for years and years that I was grossly overweight, but when I look at photos of myself from that time I'm basically carrying five pounds of babyfat.

Anyway... issues suck weight. Or something.

Posted by Gabriel... (not verified) on Mon, 09/14/2009 - 04:23
Your comments about other

Your comments about other women's perceptions really struck me, as I lost some weight very quickly some years ago (like 5 to 10 lb within a month), and when I told about 12 people that I was losing weight, 10 of them said "oh, that's great." I'm quite sure most or all of them were women. Luckily my mom was not one of them - she instantly asked what was wrong - the other friend furrowed her brow and asked "Did you *want* to be losing weight?" The thought that I might be confiding this piece of information because I was concerned about the weight loss seemed not to enter the heads of ten people. Because they were used to such announcements being proud ones, and they didn't stop to think about the already-slim body shape of the person announcing it? Because they thought I looked better without that weight? I still haven't figured it out. It still bothers me when I think about it.

Posted by Sam (not verified) on Mon, 09/14/2009 - 11:58
Gabriel: There probably is

Gabriel: There probably is some genetic component - there is with depression and addiction, so it would make sense. But yeah, weight sucks issues.

Sam: I think part of it, yeah, is just that we're so used to losing weight being automatically a great thing. It makes sense, I guess, considering our current cultural mores, but it's too bad.

Posted by megan on Tue, 09/15/2009 - 08:56
Mom got this audio book out

Mom got this audio book out for me called "buyology". In it the author describes something called "mirror neurons" which are responsible for a good portion of the reason we buy a particular thing or even act a particular way. It has been shown through MRI that seeing cigarette warning labels actually trigger the area of the brain that controls nicotine cravings.

I'm starting to learn that the "ideal" body image is being pressed on us at an early age. Immy got a pack of playing cards from a friends birthday party recently. They have Tinkerbell and all her friends "Posing Out" and in a few cases rather suggestively. And they are all drawn like Barbie. So I've hidden the cards. Which, in the grand scheme, is like taking a cup of water out of the ocean to change the level. What else can I do?

Posted by Dave (not verified) on Tue, 09/15/2009 - 14:26
It is an ocean indeed. I

It is an ocean indeed. I think the only thing you can really do is expose her to women who are interesting and successful for stuff that has little or nothing to do with how they look, which in our culture is tantamount to how much they weigh.

Posted by megan on Tue, 09/15/2009 - 22:21
Hey Megan, I think they've

Hey Megan,

I think they've changed how they diagnosis ED and not being able to swallow counts. The anxiety that's present to have to make it so you can't swallow is under that umbrella now. I see a lot of people with this issue in the hospital and I'm no doctor, but I do see that symptom and those people are in the ED unit. It may be worth checking again?

Thanks for sharing about this issue.

Posted by Jamine (not verified) on Thu, 09/17/2009 - 13:33
Huh. Wow. I don't have it

Huh. Wow.

I don't have it now, thank christ, and hope it won't ever come back, but I will keep that in mind if it does.

Thanks for letting me know!

Posted by megan on Thu, 09/17/2009 - 18:29
My weight fluctuates

My weight fluctuates slightly over period of months. It all depends if I am eating a lot of junk food or am in a phase where I eat better and am more active. Whenever I loose weight (5 pounds or so) people always comment on it. I can see it in their eyes that this is meant as a compliment. I always refuse to say thank you. I usually just agree that yes I have lost weight and then change the subject...and they always seem a little dissappointed.

Posted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 10:43