Submitted by megan on Thu, 07/08/2010 - 16:40
Identity has been on my mind a lot lately.
A while ago now, maybe almost a year, I went to a workshop at Venus Envy by Charlie Glickman about non-monogamy. As an aside, near the end, he described himself as bisexual.
It was like someone had watered me. Man, I hadn't heard that word in a long, long time. I had and have been referring to myself as queer for a long time. I'm not sure when bi faded out of my personal lexicon, but it had. And fuck, I hadn't realized how much I missed it.
For a long time I've been wanting to write about how sexual orientation, desire, practice and politics all mix for me. Because it's my blog, but because I think we don't often open up the seams of identities that appear to be sewn neatly shut.
There are about a half dozen false starts sitting in my drafts folder. I can't finish them. I'm not even entirely sure why.
I got hooked on writing this blog because writing about the stuff that's happened to me made me feel so much less alone in it. I've felt a bit stalled here lately.
Maybe it's time to shake that up a bit. So I'm going to try to write about this stuff. It may not be eloquent or well structured, but I will try my best to make it honest.
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2 comments postedHow do you feel about the term pansexual?
It's not a term I've ever felt a good fit with. It seems to get used most often in the public kink community, with which I have had truck, but isn't my community per se.
Not that it isn't a good term, or even accurate. But it doesn't feel quite right, doesn't feel like home the way that bisexual does. Funny thing, eh?
Do you use the term pansexual for yourself? If you do, what about it makes a good fit for you, do you think?
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